Nepal recently observed "Teej" - lets lightly brush through patriarchy, seems an ideal time for it.
Resilience is something I’ve learned more from my mother than any other and I feel that may ring true for many especially in Nepali society. Living in a religious house hold there were certain aspects of the patriarchal reign on Hinduism present in my house hold. My father being the obedient son of a devout devotee choose to be an “agyakari chora” over independent thought, logic and reason which knowing him he did not lack.
Many a times did he boast of his numerical mind, but perhaps it’s just that he is just efficient at realizing and repeating patterns. Unaware that the concept, the fundamentals are what carry value not merely pattern memorization or recognition and especially not blind devotion from which stems inflexible idealism- and much more. I’ve learned resilience from him too but considering my mother, like many others, left her family and entrusted herself, with all but blind faith- but also mutual attraction in this case, into the hands of her husband and her family I see her as more resilient with many emotions to carry, which perhaps might be a individual characteristic of her nature.
The resilience of a woman cannot be undervalued whatsoever in such a deeply rooted patriarchal society like ours. The deeply rooted systemic bias that is prevalent in such societies, even in the USA this problem persists, goes many a times unrealized by men, at times blatantly unacknowledged. One of many signs of the greater flaws in all of humanity beyond differences in religions, beliefs and faiths, one can’t help but ponder.
Teej should be celebrated not only as a day on which women show appreciation for the provider in their lives but equally important should be the involvement of men in showing appreciation to their life sustainer. Mutual respect is a must in any form of relationship. To those who value this thought and perhaps relay it in action, my friends kudos to you.
P.S. I am aware that Teej is celebrated as a celebration to welcome the monsoon and/or with emphasis to a goddess Parvati with whom women pray for the well being of their husbands.